Marriage Preparation

Preparation for marriage is a requirement for couples intending to marry in the Catholic Church. As well as the required preparation with a priest, who will witness the marriage, there are several programmes designed to aid couples in thinking about their relationship as they move towards marriage.

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Preparation for marriage is a requirement for couples intending to marry in the Catholic Church. As well as the required preparation with a priest, who will witness the marriage, there are several programmes designed to aid couples in thinking about their relationship as they move towards marriage.

A number of studies suggest that quality marriage preparation improves marital stability by up to 30%. The links on this page feature the main programmes currently available through the Catholic Church in England and Wales. These ‘proximate’ programmes usually take place some months before the wedding ceremony as contrasted with a more immediate, canonically required, programme of preparation carried out by the priest with a couple.

2016 Marriage Prep Publication

In autumn 2016, the Department for Christian Responsibility and Citizenship released the publication “Guidelines for the Preparation of Couples for Marriage”. These guidelines express the goodness of marriage and richness of Catholic Church teaching.

cbcew.org.uk/guidelines-marriage-prep-2016

2010 Survey Reports

The Committee for Marriage and Family Life surveyed Catholic Marriage Preparation in 2010, following this with a national conference for marriage preparation providers in 2011. In 2012, two reports were commissioned, from One plus One and from INTAMS, to examine the data collected through both consultations. During 2013 the Committee will be supporting dioceses as they reflect on how they wish to respond to the recommendations of these reports.

Catholic Marriage Preparation Survey 2010
Some observations, reflections, and recommendations from a theological and pastoral perspective

Marriage Preparation Catholic Community
An independent assessment of evaluation data from a variety of sources to assess the current picture of marriage preparation in the Catholic Church

Reports and Recommendations
A digest of our 2012 reports into marriage preparation in England and Wales with recommendations and points for reflection

You can read more about the survey here: celebratingfamily.org.uk/catholic_marriage_survey_2010.htm

You can find your diocesan coordinator of family ministry here: catholicfamily.org.uk/diocesan-work/find-a-diocesan-coordinator

Marriage Care

Marriage Care is the biggest provider of formal marriage preparation in England and Wales through a network of volunteers working from centres across dioceses. Marriage Care offers a complete one-day course for couples wishing to marry in the Catholic Church which explores the Church’s teaching on the sacrament of marriage and gives participants the opportunity to reflect on the meaning of the vows they intend to make. Marriage Care trains facilitators in this programme and offers its volunteers opportunities for supervision and continuing professional development. Income from the marriage preparation service makes it possible for Marriage Care to also offer a counselling service to couples who need extra support.

For more information please visit: marriagecare.org.uk/how-we-help/marriage-preparation

Engaged Encounter

An Engaged Encounter weekend is a form of marriage preparation designed to give couples preparing for marriage the chance to talk openly about their expectations and attitudes in such areas as work, money, children, in-laws, sex, leisure time, church and so on. The focus of the weekend is on growth in relationships through communication as a couple. It is not a retreat and there are no group discussions.

For more information please visit: https://wwme.org.uk/marriage-preparation/

Smart Loving Engaged

Combining a number of learning methods, the Smart Loving Engaged course is designed to be used in one of four ways – couple to couple mentoring, small home-centred groups, larger groups in parish rooms or online mentored correspondence. Core content is presented on DVD, supported by participant materials with additional take-home activities to stimulate private discussion. Presented by husband and wife teams, the course offers Catholic theology and practical skills and tools for relationships at whatever stage.

For further information email smartloving@talktalk.net or visit smartloving.org/uk/.

Diocesan Programmes

Most dioceses offer a range of opportunities for marriage preparation. Click on the links for further information.

Arundel & Brighton
Cardiff
East Anglia 
Hallam
Lancaster
Leeds (courses)
Liverpool
Plymouth
Salford
Shrewsbury
Southwark
Westminster
Wrexham

Additional Programmes

There are a number of other programmes available to couples in their local communities, for example, the Marriage Preparation course developed at Holy Trinity, Brompton.

Premarital inventories such as FOCCUS and PREPARE are becoming more widely available to couples, especially since FOCCUS is offered through Marriage Care centres.

Online Programmes

Programmes available online can give couples separated by great distance the chance to prepare together. Here are two different examples from the US:

catholicmarriageprepclass.com

catholicmarriageprep.com

Ecumenical

loveandcherish.org.uk
Love and Cherish is an example of an ecumenical marriage preparation programme